Remember the last time you were worried about something? You couldn’t stop thinking about it – “Did I lock the front door?” “I know I forgot something, what is it???” At times, your thoughts would be consumed thinking about it, taking your focus away from what you should have been doing instead of obsessing.
Then, remember the flood of relief you felt when you turned around to go back home and you discovered that you had locked the door, or when you finally remembered you needed to call your bank about an odd looking charge on your statement.
That feeling of relief was the freedom you felt when those worrying thoughts dissipated.
In our lives, that feeling of freedom is essential in pursuing our goals with confidence, with minimum distraction, and with our success securely focused in our mind.
Now think about how jealousy, anger, depression and other negative emotions ‘rob’ your freedom to do what you want to do.
I always tell people – it’s OK to experience negativity. You need to acknowledge it, then work towards letting it go. This doesn’t mean you ignore things, it means you don’t let yourself be affected by the negativity. You rise above it, see things with a satellite view, and then make decisions based on being rational, not being emotional.
We are bound to experience negativity often – how we react to it determines our freedom. It’s our own choice. If you want to work on not reacting emotionally, it takes practice. First, recognize you have the power to receive negativity and block it from affecting you. Then practice, practice, practice! When it comes at you, pause, take a deep breath, even count to 10 if you have to, just don’t let the negativity control you.
Being patient is such an important trait that often gets overlooked in our day to day lives. True patience means keeping your power turned on as you consciously wait for whatever it is you are working toward to appear at the appropriate time. Patience is knowing the truth and expecting the truth to manifest. This idea of knowing and expecting is all a part of being your own Silent Master. Thus, when you genuinely express true patience, you’re thinking as your Silent Master thinks.
For example, say you’ve been trying to become pregnant for a long time and are elated that it finally happened. You experience some morning sickness but you quickly get over that. After three months, do you say, “Where is my baby? I’m ready to get this over with. Let’s go.” What about after five months? How about eight month or even longer than that? You must stay patient until your baby’s development is complete.
Let’s take an entirely different scenario. Let’s pretend your home was destroyed in a flood and has to be rebuilt. After the builders have begun working on it for a few weeks, is it sensible to ask the builder, “Where is my home? Where’s the kitchen? Where’s the completed living room? When can I move in?” Of course you wouldn’t do that because you understand how much time it takes to build a new home. You’ve already done your planning, you’ve pushed to make it happen and stayed loyal to the goals you’ve set. Now you’re patiently waiting for the conclusion of the project. When you’re manufacturing a new product, you know that you’ll have to go through stages one, two, and three before moving on to stages four, five, and six. To avoid a lot of anxiety and future frustration about the project and instead replace it with patience, you can carefully chart out where you are in the process.
Your life is also a constant work in progress. It takes everyone time to grow and mature. Everything has a time frame for completion. Even though we may not be aware of the timing and processes of our life, these stages still exist for us and we’re constantly moving through them. Granted this is a very far-reaching view of patience than what we typically think about. Normally patience is when you have to wait in a long line at a grocery store. What I’m talking about here is a whole different level of patience. Sometimes it can take years to achieve certain life goals. When you’re in middle of this process, it can be easy to allow yourself to get disappointed with each delay and use that as an excuse to give up all together.
If you connect with what you’ve read here you might enjoy the book I wrote SEVEN STEPS TO INNER POWER, where I talk about other life experiences and what I’ve learned in the process.
It’s a common misconception that most of our attachments center on objects or people. The truth is that our attitudes and feelings about objects are more binding than the objects themselves. For example, we may become attached to an object, person, or situation (even if we complain about it) because we like feeling comfortable, we fear change, and we don’t have the courage to take initiative on our own. Maybe we stay with a domineering boyfriend, girlfriend, or employer, even though doing so is keeping us stuck in a rut. In cases like these, fear is the real attachment, not the person. If suddenly those people are removed from our lives but we still have not let go of our fundamental fears and have not developed the strength to stand up for ourselves, we’ll just become attached to the next domineering boyfriend or girlfriend or employer that comes along – and continue to complain about them. That’s because the thoughts we keep in our mind rule over us as long as we allow them to stay there, and they continue to produce the same results. Visit me online at my school, Jung SuWon or on YouTube Enjoy some of these recent articles published in Parabola, Medium and Silicon Valley Talk
Here is an excerpt from my book, SEVEN STEPS TO INNER POWER, where I discuss how to ask for insight and direction:
Your real self already knows its freedom from mental and emotional limitations. Therefore, you can insist on experiencing the feelings of your real self. These are always positive feelings that you can claim as your own. In addition, you can consciously strive to entertain thoughts that bring you the most positive feelings.
There is a good reason why positive emotions such as joy, optimism, love, compassion, affection, hope, and gratitude help you achieve your goals. They bring forth the presence of your Silent Master and therefore have creative power. A positive mental attitude simply means that you are free from conflicting thoughts and emotions. You feel emotions of joy, peace, and confidence because you expect success. You feel strong because you realize that your real self has power, and you have removed (or are removing) all negative thoughts and emotions that could obstruct your manifestation.