How can we be authentic to our true self?
On our paths to self-discovery, we make goals, set milestones and keep track of our progress. It’s a continual calibration, as simply setting a goal isn’t enough. Forward movement requires making choices that support our goals.
You and you alone have to choose what you will be loyal too. We know all too well how easy it is to get distracted, and to go back to an old habit “just this once”. We each have to decide what is truly important to us, and sometimes, we have to face rough truths. That piece of chocolate cake may seem like it’s just what you need in the moment, but is it truly more important than a goal of cutting back on sweets? The answer is “Yes” if you do end up giving in to the cake.
However, you also discovered a weakness, which you now can consciously take steps to address. Help yourself out! If you stay up too late at night looking at your phone, stop complaining about how little sleep you get. Make the conscious decision to leave your phone in another room at night. If the phone is right by your bed, you’ll be tempted to look at it. Build up your inner strength and determination so that you can keep your phone next to you without giving in to looking at it.
What is essential throughout any journey towards accomplishing a goal is DO NOT GIVE UP! If you eat that chocolate cake, own up to what you did, and then recalibrate your actions to be inline with your goals. Also take a moment to truly reflect on how that deviation made you feel? Did the cake address the desire you felt before you ate it? Did it live up to the hype? Did you end up in a sugar-induced stupor? Perhaps you want to cut back on video games or watching TV – give yourself a chance to really find out what it feels like, don’t assume that you will always want to keep on doing the same exact things you are doing now.
Keep getting back to your goals, no matter how far off track you might feel. Keep your mind open to new and creative ways to accomplish what you want as you progress through this beautiful life we’ve been given.
Next, set a timeline to motivate yourself on a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly basis towards that goal. Make a plan with steps to be accomplished, and dates by which to accomplish them. If there is an end in sight, with a map on how to get there, you’re far more likely to work towards that result. In setting a calendar with specific challenges and tasks to be accomplished by a certain time, remember, that success often doesn’t come in the order in which we plan it. That’s okay. As long as you’re making progress towards your end result, you’re doing more than 99% of those around you. And you’re likely to get to your goal. Remember, a delay does not mean you have to abandon your goal. After all, you may need to adjust plans along the way as new information comes to us. As long as you start with a firm concept of what you want to accomplish and by when, you will be in motion and moving toward the finish line. Professional athletes, for example, dedicate themselves to practicing, training and striving to meet specific markers along the way to their end goal. Just like that, we need to be specific and consistent. Keep in mind that none of us know when the sun will go down in our lives. All we have is today, to work our hardest, to move forward doing the very best we can with the tools and circumstances in front of us. If you live each day in service to your goals and values, working towards making them happen, I guarantee you will find satisfaction and success!
Being patient is such an important trait that often gets overlooked in our day to day lives. True patience means keeping your power turned on as you consciously wait for whatever it is you are working toward to appear at the appropriate time. Patience is knowing the truth and expecting the truth to manifest. This idea of knowing and expecting is all a part of being your own Silent Master. Thus, when you genuinely express true patience, you’re thinking as your Silent Master thinks.
For example, say you’ve been trying to become pregnant for a long time and are elated that it finally happened. You experience some morning sickness but you quickly get over that. After three months, do you say, “Where is my baby? I’m ready to get this over with. Let’s go.” What about after five months? How about eight month or even longer than that? You must stay patient until your baby’s development is complete.
Let’s take an entirely different scenario. Let’s pretend your home was destroyed in a flood and has to be rebuilt. After the builders have begun working on it for a few weeks, is it sensible to ask the builder, “Where is my home? Where’s the kitchen? Where’s the completed living room? When can I move in?” Of course you wouldn’t do that because you understand how much time it takes to build a new home. You’ve already done your planning, you’ve pushed to make it happen and stayed loyal to the goals you’ve set. Now you’re patiently waiting for the conclusion of the project. When you’re manufacturing a new product, you know that you’ll have to go through stages one, two, and three before moving on to stages four, five, and six. To avoid a lot of anxiety and future frustration about the project and instead replace it with patience, you can carefully chart out where you are in the process.
Your life is also a constant work in progress. It takes everyone time to grow and mature. Everything has a time frame for completion. Even though we may not be aware of the timing and processes of our life, these stages still exist for us and we’re constantly moving through them. Granted this is a very far-reaching view of patience than what we typically think about. Normally patience is when you have to wait in a long line at a grocery store. What I’m talking about here is a whole different level of patience. Sometimes it can take years to achieve certain life goals. When you’re in middle of this process, it can be easy to allow yourself to get disappointed with each delay and use that as an excuse to give up all together.
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While you’re reading through this, try to think about times when you may have felt critical of others or yourself. Did holding those feelings help the situation or did they make it worse?
As you become more aware of the energy and emotions you want to purge from your environment, try your best not to get caught up in criticizing yourself for the attribute you want to be rid of. Please don’t be too hard on yourself for having apprehension or being restless or annoyed. The fact that you’re taking notice of these tendencies means that you’re doing something – you’re starting taking first steps to take control of your life. As I mentioned earlier, try to analyze these shortcomings with a very close eye.
When you’re driving down an old road on a hot day and your car gets covered in dust, you wouldn’t think of it as right or wrong. You understand that this is something that just happens, and you make a mental note to get the car washed the next time you’re in town. Let’s pretend you’re in a car and it begins to rain, naturally your front window begins to get wetter and wetter so you turn on the windshield wipers to see better. You’re not going to blame the rain for messing with you and say, “Why is this stupid water getting on my windshield and all over my car, and on a Monday of all days!?”
It doesn’t really matter how you feel about the rain, partially because the rain doesn’t care about you either. Maybe you have been experiencing a major drought where you live and you welcome the downpour with open arms, or maybe you’ve had drenching floods lately and you don’t want to see another drop of rain for the rest of your life. Regardless of how you feel, you have to deal with what’s happening in the moment. Getting worked up and allowing emotions to negatively influence you won’t help. In order to move forward, you have to establish a balance, be positive, and take appropriate measures.
Life is like sailing across an ocean, and in the same way that you experience rough and turbulent weather at times, so too will you experience fear or doubt or jealousy and you’ll want to have your umbrella with you. That’s perfectly natural. Observe these attitudes for what they really are and, becauseyou’re being consciously aware just know that they’re holding you back, set your sights on removing them and replacing them with belief in yourself as your own unique person, gratitude for what you already have, and excitement to be alive with a new day of opportunity ripe for the takinIf you connect with what you’ve read here you might enjoy the book I wrote SEVEN STEPS TO INNER POWER, where I talk about other life experiences and what I’ve learned in the process.
Love truly has the power to transform and heal, but why does it seem so elusive?
It’s a simple truth that before you can express love, you must know love – and before you can love someone else, you must first learn to love yourself. For a feeling so easy to experience, it takes work, too! Love in all forms, whether for oneself or another person, takes energy, and effort!
How many of us struggle with a harsh inner critic, an endless flow of judgment and discouragement? So often it is so much simpler to say to ourselves, “I can’t do this” instead of “I’m going to try, and try again!” And yet, It is this “inner critic” that must be tamed before we can truly love ourselves, or anyone else.
So how do we stop this inner critic? How can we truly purify our thinking to remove this negative energy?
It starts with gratitude, with every day and in every action. After all, love goes hand in hand with gratitude. Giving thanks and appreciation is a practice, however. It must be conscious, in every thing we do. Remember, when we express gratitude, we are acknowledging that something good exists. This acknowledgment energizes that good thing and gives it momentum to continue existing, while shrinking the “inner critic” inside ourselves!
We should think of gratitude as we would any other skill that we want to master in life. Even a simple “thank you” to the person ringing up your groceries is a powerful form of gratitude, and could possibly make a big difference in that person’s day. Do you thank your body for your good health every morning? Your legs that walk, your eyes that see? Do you remember to give appreciation for having transportation, or food on your plate for every meal? It may seem silly, but studies show that people who consciously practice gratitude reshape their neurological pathways, in turn experiencing more joy, and positivity throughout their days! In other words, giving thanks makes you feel more thankful!
Gratitude also helps us remember to not forget to acknowledge the people around us. Let’s not fall into thinking “of course they know that I love them, I don’t have to say it all the time.” The people in our lives need to hear it directly from us.
Try it today – get to know who you are and learn to love yourself! Practice gratitude with those you encounter. See how these actions lift up your energy and the energy of the people you interact with. And watch how giving thanks helps us not only be kinder to others, but to ourselves as well.[/et_pb_text][/et_pb_column] [/et_pb_row] [/et_pb_section]