Here is an excerpt from my book, The Silent Master: Awakening the Power Within:
3. Develop Detachments
Detachment is the means by which you let go of the old in order to make room for the new. It is the means by which your good expands into greater good. As you redefine yourself, you will have to let go of old thoughts, emotions, and situations.
How do you just let go? Whether it’s a relationship, a job, an environment, a marriage, how is it possible to just let go? You may have already discovered it isn’t an easy thing to do.
Detachment becomes easier if you remind yourself of one simple thing: everything material you create or draw to you with your thought and emotion is impermanent. All things material ultimately pass away as we discussed in the last chapter. Continuous change is the law of the universe. Detachment is the healthy way to regard everything you create, because it is simply an attitude in which you expect change. You look upon all you manifest as a creation, just that and nothing more. That way, whether you experience loss or gain, it doesn’t matter, because you go on to create another situation and yet another.
Clinging to a good picture you have created possibly keeps you from expanding into an even greater good. Clinging to a disagreeable picture keeps you there! So you don’t want to hold onto either as though it’s the final story. You don’t hate, resent, fight or quarrel with an undesirable situation, and you don’t overly love or “cling” to a desirable situation. Detachment means you are always ready, open, and willing to experience change. This is how you develop. You can’t develop and grow if you hold on tightly to something you’ve acquired no matter how good you think it is.