Here is an excerpt from my book, The Silent Master: Awakening the Power Within:
And perhaps what may be harder than forgiving others is forgiving yourself. The main obstacle in forgiving yourself is guilt. If you think back to your childhood, you’ll remember that condemnation was probably the most common way of dealing with wrongdoing. Most of us have been taught that when we did something wrong, we should be condemned before being forgiven, and maybe not even forgiven! Most of us were not taught that doing something wrong should be an opportunity for education, or an opportunity for creating a better solution.