Here is an excerpt from my book, The Silent Master: Awakening the Power Within:
Maintain a Forgiving Attitude
Once you have begun to set goals that go beyond your present concept of yourself, you may have to work hard at letting go of your past. A big part of the readiness phase of Self Discovery is the elimination of the old to make room for the new. This may require much forgiveness on your part, because forgiveness is the way you release the past. You cannot change a situation if you keep holding onto it with negative emotion. You must forgive, release, and sacrifice feelings of condemnation in order to change any bad situation in your life.