Here is an excerpt from my book, The Silent Master: Awakening the Power Within:
For instance, if you’re saying on the one hand, “I really want to lose weight,” and you’re saying on the other hand, “I can’t live or be happy unless I eat everything I want,” you’re going to be in a struggle, unable to fully commit. If you feel yourself wanting to become a new person, but experience resistance and struggle, let this tell you that you are holding some concepts that will have to go because they are opposing your true intent of true Self Discovery. You will not need to fight with yourself to eliminate the Self-Concepts that stand in the way. But you will need to cling to the truth about yourself with focused commitment.