Here is an excerpt from my book, The Silent Master: Awakening the Power Within:
Instead of being inflexible like the scorpion and regarding your bad habits as “just your nature,” or “just the way you are,” why not try another approach? Let’s assume for a moment that your negative traits are beliefs that you have adopted about yourself, and that you can use your will power to begin the process of conquering them. If you have beliefs like “I’m lazy,” “I’m shy,” “I’m useless,” “I’m poor,” “I’m stupid,” let’s ask: what do you get out of it? If you’re holding onto to these beliefs so tightly, you must be getting something you think you want. But is it happiness you’re getting? Success? Achievement? Growth?
I really doubt if you’re getting anything good from these beliefs.