Whenever Great Grandmaster Tae Yun Kim ask this question in class or lectures, the students and audiences often respond by saying it’s either our hands or our feet. I was definitely in a similar perspective but Great Grandmaster Tae Yun Kim opened up my awareness, my knowledge and wisdom by sharing her teaching with us, which goes beyond just the physical aspect alone.
Great Grandmaster Tae Yun Kim teaches us that our tongue is the most dangerous part of our body. She explains that maybe we can get hit by punch and it might take few days or a week to heal… and same goes from getting kicked. But she asked, “How long does it take to heal the pain that we cause to other people when we end up saying hurtful things to them whether we did it intentionally or we were not aware of it?”
Great Grandmaster Tae Yun Kim always reminds us that what we say to the other person can help build them up or it can completely ruin or destroy them.When I heard this message, immediately these questions came up in my head:
Did I laugh at the person that tripped or fell on the floor, did I make fun of someone by the way they talk, they love or dress, did I make careless comments to someone saying that they are stupid or their no good at this or that, have I criticize anyone and break their heart?
I know for myself that I end up saying hurtful comments to someone without even knowing it and most of the time, I have found myself in the situation where I said, “Oh, I did not mean that or oops, that’s not what I meant…” By that time, it is too late because there is no way I can take back the words that I said. The worst part of it is that it already had a negative impact toward the other person from the very first minute I made my comment.
Sometimes, I get into an argument with another person from speaking out of emotions. I remember Great Grandmaster Tae Yun Kim shared to us one of the messages in the bible, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to be angry.”(James 1:19) Most of the time, I get so caught up trying to get my point across to someone without taking time to listen where they are coming from or maybe taking in their feedback as a learning opportunity. I am learning that I have to think before I let words come out from my mouth and takes into consideration the other people’s feelings and perspective.
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