In my last blog, I talked about the importance of embracing challenge. It is concept that I hold very dear to me in my daily practice. If it wasn’t for the challenges I have endured, I wouldn’t be where I am today, neither would you, or Thomas Edison, Steve Jobs, Gandhi, my Master, Dr. Tae Yun Kim, Jesus Christ, and many more. As painful as it may seem, the value of struggling is something truly special.
I reflect on my own struggles. I was a spoiled child, which I believed was privileged to have everything the way I wanted. My Master, Dr. Tae Yun Kim, worked with me and my mother, and she also, had others participate in the process for me to overcome my spoiled behavior. It wasn’t easy, specifically not me, but for them also. When something didn’t go the way I wanted, I would burst into tantrums, screaming my lungs out and crying for hours at a time. I had good lungs, from all of that… However, my mother and others that worked with me were instructed to stand their ground and not give in to my sporadic demands. It took a long time to get used to it. Until gradually, my crying and tantrums started to happen less (because it took much energy for me because it happened so frequently), and eventually, I became fine when circumstances didn’t go my way. Of course, it didn’t happen overnight, in fact, it took years, but I made it across the finish line. This is just one of the many examples that I had to go through to re-shape and mold a new me. Every time I had to undergo a change in my behavior trait that held me down, it was hard, but as time went by and I looked back, it made me a better person.
The situations and events we face daily is also an exercise for us to endure struggle, become stronger and find success. We always have terrible days, but we also have good days! We have days where we feel defeated, but we also days that we succeed to or exceed our goals. From what I have learned from my Master, the importance of remember your failures are just as important, or if not more important than, to remember your successes. Our failures are what keeps us humble, compassionate, and maintains a certain level of openness to grow. When we make a mistake it provides an opportunity for us to learn; a platform for us to leap towards our next level.
A simple example is our training at Jung SuWon. I remember walking-in for class and not feeling like I wanted to go to class because maybe I was bored, or I was too tired, or hungry, or distracted. When those days came, I was pushed by my mother and others to go and train. I would be upset. I was reluctant. However, even after the class, I couldn’t help but feeling good from a great work-out. That simple practice of regular training over many years became my foundation, and my internal sanctuary for managing my stress. Through that struggle, I found my success.
Like the phoenix that dies and is born from the ashes, I feel like life is exactly that. We die and are born again. We need to embrace struggle, and simply trust the process with a positive attitude and be open to a creative thought process. There is one thing that I always remember from my Master when I am in that period of struggle: “He Can Do, She Can Do, Why Not Me!”
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