Here is an excerpt from my book, SEVEN STEPS TO INNER POWER. As you read through this, think about times when you may have felt critical of others or yourself. Did holding those feelings help the situation?
As you become aware of the energy and emotions you want to cleanse from your world, take care not to get caught up criticizing yourself for the trait you want to eliminate. Please don't get down on yourself for having doubts or being impatient or angry. The fact that you are noticing these tendencies means that you are doing something - you are engaged in your life. As I said earlier, look at these weaknesses clinically.
When you are driving down a dusty road on a hot day and your car becomes coated in dust, you don't label it as right or wrong. You accept that this is something that just happens, and you make a mental note to get the car washed the next time you are in town. When you're in a car and it starts raining, you notice that your windshield is getting wet and then you turn on your windshield wipers so you can drive safely. You don't curse the rain and say, "Why is this stupid water getting on my windshield and all over my car?"
It doesn't really matter how you feel about the rain. Maybe you have been experiencing a severe drought where you live and so you welcome the downpour, or maybe you've had drenching floods lately and you don't want to see another drop of rain. Regardless of how you feel, you have to deal with what's happening at the moment. Getting frustrated and bringing in emotions doesn't help. In order to move forward, you have to stay in balance, be positive, and take appropriate action.
Life is a journey, and in the same way that you experience rough weather at times, so you'll experience fear or doubt or jealousy. That's okay. See these attitudes for what they are and, because you know they are holding you back, set about replacing them with confidence in yourself, gratitude for what you have, and excitement to be alive with a new day of opportunity before you.