Here is an excerpt from my book, SEVEN STEPS TO INNER POWER. As you read through this, think about what it means to be one of a kind. Does this help to shed any clarity on your life goals?
Your Silent Master is your real self, your original self. It expresses itself through your thinking, through true ideas and thoughts in your mind. It is your eternal Selfhood that exists apart from your brain (which is a sensory processor only) and the personality traits imposed on you from your environment.
I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to live by the truth that you are one of a kind. As a child in training under my martial arts master, I would be in tears as I told him how my family was treating me – how they were pounding negative messages into my ears every day, telling me I was no good, I was bad luck, I was a tomboy, I was a curse, I was a disaster, I was never going to be happy, I could never be a martial artist and I was crazy to even think like that.
No matter how much I wanted to get angry and fight when I heard those words, my master would say to me: “Just remember: You are one of a kind. You are not your mother and you are not your grandmother. Do not let their opinions or judgments or ideas affect who you can be, because you are not them. You are unique. Your mother has copied her lifestyle from your grandmother, as she was taught to do. You say you want to become a practitioner of the martial arts – even a teacher. No woman has ever done that. So you need to accept that you are one of a kind and acknowledge it. You need to believe that’s who you are before you can convince anyone else.” He encouraged me to affirm that truth over and over.
Now it is my turn to tell you: I know who you are. Now you have to know who you are. You are one of a kind. You are not just someone’s son or daughter, brother or sister, mother or father. You’re not just an employee or manager at such and such a company. We’ve all heard about people who lose their job or break up with their boyfriend or girlfriend and then lash out violently at others or even want to commit suicide because they believe their life is now finished. Have you ever felt that way yourself? Remember, your job, your relationships, what other people say about you is not who you are. If someone doesn’t appreciate who you are, you are still one of a kind with unlimited opportunity and potential. No one can take that away from you – unless you allow them to.