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Learn From Your Mistakes

Here is an excerpt from my book, SEVEN STEPS TO INNER POWER, where I discuss the topic of Mistakes.

Mistakes Are Your Feedback System

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The second principle of mental conduct is to learn from your mistakes.  In the preceding section, I talked about how we are constantly evaluating ourselves as if we are onstage and how we tend to hide our weaknesses to put ourselves in a better light, thereby hoping to give ourselves a higher performance rating. For the same reason, we tend to hide our mistakes. Just as we think a good performer shouldn’t be weak, we think a good performer shouldn’t make mistakes. So when we do make a mistake, we believe that the more quickly we get it out of sight and move on, the better. Think about it for a moment. When we have made a mistake, one of the things we immediately do is try to cover it up, make excuses for it, or justify it.  We’ll do almost anything to get away from it rather than look long and hard at it.

What we don’t realize is that mistakes are part of a natural feedback system when we are learning a task or accomplishing a goal. That’s all.

Imagine a gymnastics student learning to do a back flip for the first time. As he strives to imitate the movement as best he can, the teacher tells him two things: what he did correctly, and what he did incorrectly. That is called positive and negative feedback. The positive feedback describes his right action, and the negative feedback describes his mistakes. Can you see how knowledge of mistakes is as important in the learning process as knowledge of right actions? When you know what is not correct, you can then consciously strive to avoid the mistake and duplicate the right action. Precise knowledge of correct and incorrect, then, forms the basis of our conscious choices and actions, and that speeds up the learning process.

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Now imagine a person striving to get promoted in her workplace. Perhaps she calls attention to herself by bragging and showing off.  To make herself look better, she calls attention to deficiencies in coworkers. After a while, she is fired instead of promoted. Did she make a mistake? Absolutely. She must now regard that mistake as feedback on what not to do to get a promotion. She still has to learn what she needs to do, of course, and may make more mistakes in the process of finding the right action to take.

 

The key is to keep going. She must not let her mistakes be excuses for giving up or allow her self-condemnation to paralyze her future actions. If her goal is worth achieving, she must be willing to persist through every form of failure, always regarding it as a learning experience, as feedback, until she hits upon the right action for success.

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Awareness

Here is an excerpt from my book, SEVEN STEPS TO INNER POWER, where I discuss the topic of Awareness:

Awareness Happens Only Now   True awareness means being right where you are, right now, without fear or worry or obsession about the future or past. When you manage to do that, a wonderful thing happens. Focused here, now, you become undistracted. You find yourself becoming mentally quiet. And when that happens, you “hear” your Silent Master quite clearly. You perceive all around you quite clearly. You find yourself knowing what to do—now, ten minutes from now, or tomorrow. As a result, you consistently find yourself in the right place at the right time. Why? Because living in the present moment is an act of surrender to the greater intelligence of your Silent Master, the greater intelligence of life itself. In this listening state, moment by moment you feel and respond to Its promptings. It is “guiding” you; we can also say that you and your Silent Master are moving together as One.

“I have to plan,” you may say. “I have to think about what I’m going to do ten minutes from now, or tomorrow, or it won’t happen.” Yes, you should make plans in the present moment. You don’t ever stop thinking, but be watchful to keep yourself open to new incoming ideas that may change what you plan. The point is to be aware every moment of what you are thinking, because whatever is going on now is on the way to manifesting. How important it is, then, to keep everything you don’t want out of your moment to moment consciousness. How can you do that if you’re not focused here, now?

When you can seize control of the now moment, you take intelligent control of your life.

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Loyalty

Here is an excerpt from my book, SEVEN STEPS TO INNER POWER, where I discuss the topic of Loyalty.

  

Love is its own reward. The wonderful feeling of love generated from expressing your real self naturally leads you to value your real self even more. Then, the more you value your real self, the more you love. This momentum of love is the essence of loyalty, so loyalty is the result of perpetuating, reinforcing, and expressing your real self by loving it.

And how do you love yourself? By being your real self. There is no greater way to love your real self than by being It. That is loyalty.

Here’s an interesting thought you may not be aware of. The word “loyal” is derived from the Latin word legalis, which means “legal.” Thus, loyal includes the meaning of legal, which means “bound by law.” So, when you are loyal to your real self, when you are loyal to true and pure ideas about yourself, you invite the law of manifestation to operate and bring forth your real self. Loyalty is an act of acknowledging this law, an act of recognizing that whatever you are mentally loyal to is bound to take form.

Loyalty, then, is a lot like gratitude because they are both acts of recognizing or acknowledging an idea. Whatever you’re loyal to, you recognize. Whatever you recognize, you think about. Whatever you think about, you manifest.

 

What are you loyal to in your life?  Where do you put your energy?  Family and loved ones?  Bad habits?  

 

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Love

Here is an excerpt from my book, SEVEN STEPS TO INNER POWER, where I discuss the topic of Love.

Before you can express love, you must find love. You must know love within yourself before can express it. You must love yourself before you can give it to another. 

When you recognize or experience the truth about yourself you automatically feel love, because love is a quality of your true consciousness and true ideas.

Remember what we said of your Silent Master Consciousness:

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Your Silent Master

expresses completeness,

fulfillment, harmony,

peace, joy, and Love,

and imparts these

qualities to everything

It creates.

Thus, when you express purity—which is the truth about yourself, your Silent Master Consciousness—you feel a love for “yourself that is expressed by self respect, self esteem, and self confidence.Love, and all the feelings of love, come with recognizing what is true about you and everything around you.

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The First Step of Readiness

Here is an excerpt from my book, The Silent Master, Awakening the Power Within:

 

The first step to take in the readiness stage of self-discovery is to take charge of your thinking.  Every response that you make to your environment, and every action you take (or don’t take) is propelled by some decision, choice, or response that you make in your thinking.  The three most important aspects of your thinking to take charge of are will, motivation, and attitude.  As we discuss these three areas, I will refer to the five principles of mental conduct, which are an important part of the Jung SuWon training I teach.  These five principles enable you to take charge of your thinking so that your mental activity supports you rather than sabotages you:  

  1. Identify your fears and weaknesses and conquer them.
  2. Learn from your mistakes.
  3. Know you have the ability to do, the capacity to act, and the capability to perform and produce.
  4. Have determination and a quality purpose.
  5. Have a positive mental attitude.

 

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